Lies…. Lies…. Lies, I tell ya!!! I am probably one of the most caring and understanding people that one will ever meet! You can tell me something and I will believe every word you’ve said because I don’t have any reason to doubt your words. Well, that is until I’m lied to and deceived.
When I look back over my marriage, I realize a lot of my marriage was based on lies. Whether it was my ex-husband lying about smoking weed, or lying about where he was, or the lies about the females calling him phone…. There were MANY LIES!!! And though I didn’t understand, I prayed and prayed and prayed for a change of character for my ex-husband. I prayed and asked to how I as his wife should deal with the lies and deception, how should I remain faithful to an unfaithful man. It was bad, but God prevailed! If you’ve read my post domestic violence saved my life, you will see a little more of my story, BUT GOD! I was deceived by the person that was supposed to be by my side till death do us part….. BUT GOD!!!
Deception violates trust, and trust is an essential component to any relationship. Dr. David of Crosswalk.com says: “Trust is the foundation that holds a relationship up. I tell you what is important to me and what I expect from you. If you agree to honor and respect what is important to me, I will trust you with my feelings and thoughts. If you dishonor me by violating an agreement, by deceiving me, we’re going to have serious problems. If you make amends for your betrayal, I might, if I determine you to be trustworthy, slowly begin to trust you again. If you don’t seem to understand the importance of honoring an agreement, and the importance of protecting my trust in you, we cannot have a relationship.” Point, blank, period!!
Galatians 6:7-8 reads: Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.” Pretty much this scripture tells us that you bring in what you put out!!! When we are in a committed relationship, and we deceive our partner by way of lies, infidelity, or whatever the case may be, we can expect chaos within that relationship. Living a deceptive lifestyle is bound to ruin any good thing that has come about in your relationship, however if you can be upfront, honest, and faithful with your mate, you will enjoy the benefits of happiness!
No relationship is perfect, however, we need to know that when we are dealing with other people, that we need to be our genuine selves. We have to be treat our mate with the upmost respect because he or she may be the one that God has for us!! Dr. Lisa Firestone writes on psyhcalive.org, “An ideal relationship is built on trust, openness, mutual respect and personal freedom. But real freedom comes with making a choice, not just about who we are with but how we will treat that person. Choosing to be honest with a partner every day is what keeps love real. And truly choosing that partner every day by one’s own free will is what makes love last. So while freedom to choose is a vital aspect of any healthy and honest union, deception is the third party that should never be welcome in a relationship. “
In our next relationships, avoid any type of deception that will lead us away from our mate but especially Christ!!
Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank you! Thank you for your spirit! Thank you for your loving kindness! Thank you for just being God alone! Father as I come to you right now, I ask you for a discerning spirit. I ask that when you send/lead me to my future mate, that I will be able to be the Christian partner that you have called me to be! I pray that you will remove any form of deception from me now, so that I can serve you whole heartedly! Father I love you and I thank you in advance for all the wonderful thing you are doing for me! I know that you will allow me to be the best person that I can be in you. Thank you God for Jesus! Thank you for healing, protection, and everything else that I am experiencing because I am your child! Father I love you and I praise you. In Jesus name! Amen and Praise God!!